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SUPER MARITAL SEX OPPORTUNITY
There is no way for persons who have no serious impairment to know what it is like to attempt to return to sexual intimacy following the insult of disease or injury. To help you and your spouse communicate about this issue and to broaden the range of your sexual interaction to include a small degree of imposed interference in sexual behavior, spend one love session with one partner blindfolded. Make sure there is plenty of light for one spouse while the other partner experiences the absence of one sense. Change the opportunity around on a different night. Talk about the experience both from the blind position and the sighted position in making love. Notice how you must accentuate your other senses, learn to love beyond the limits of light, and modify your sexual system and roles within that system. How adaptive were you? How adaptive was your marital system?
Some of the couples in the clinic invented their own opportunities to understand about impairment and sensory compensation and enhancement. One couple taped large wads of cotton under their arms and behind their knees, just enough to restrict movement. They wondered together about a time when their own movements might be restricted by the aging process. Some couples extended the sensory deprivation and compensation opportunity outside of the lovemaking sessions to daily living, with one partner wearing the blindfold or cotton all day while being helped by the spouse. There is a big difference between seeing and perceiving, “knowing” and experiencing, and super marital sex depends on a depth and range of adaptive sensuality, a sex strong enough to survive the most catastrophic of times. If we are able to learn this lesson and teach it to our children, we have provided them with an important love legacy. The next chapter discusses love education for super relationships.
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YOUR MARITAL HEALTH/WHY HUSBANDS DON’T HAVE ORGASM: THE HUSBANDS’ ORGASMIC INVENTORY
The next test is one of the most controversial tests taken by the couples, the Husbands’ Orgasmic Inventory.
SCORING: 3—ALWAYS 2—USUALLY 1-SELDOM 0—NEVER
1. I feel responsible for the sexual experience. Whether the interaction is good or bad depends on me.
2. Once I ejaculate, I have to rest. I feel less energetic and have to recuperate.
3. When I begin to feel very good sexually, I know I am getting very close to “coming” or’ ‘climaxing.” The better it feels, the sooner I know I will come.
4. It is better if my wife is relatively still during the act of intercourse. If she moves too vigorously, it tends to make me come sooner.
5. When I ejaculate, I feel a few strong throbs in my penis at the time of ejaculation.
6. I seem to come much sooner when I have not had sex for a long time.
7. I feel a numbness or insensitivity in most of my body just after I come. This is particularly true in my genitals.
8. I need to take a PON (post-orgasmic nap) or even a POS (post-orgasmic sleep) after I come.
9. I notice that my wife really seems to get much more intensely involved in her orgasms than I do in mine. She seems to almost be “gone”.
10. I feel that ejaculation is essentially the same thing as orgasm. If I don’t ejaculate, then I know I haven’t come.
11. My orgasms are essentially the same no matter. what type of sex I am having (coitus, oral sex, masturbation). Whatever the source of stimulation, I essentially come the same way.
12. I have noticed as I get older that my orgasms are less intense than they used to be. The throbbing is less intense and there are fewer of them.
13. I have sex mostly at night. It sort of allows me to release the tension so I can sleep.
14. My sexual patterns with my wife are essentially “turn-taking.” I try to help her have an orgasm before I try to have mine.
Before I come, I feel as if I would have loved to have sex all night. After
15 I come, I seem to lose interest.
I usually get to the point that no matter what happens, there is nothing I
can do to stop my ejaculation. Even if all stimulation is stopped, I ejaculate
anyway.
17 I try so hard to time my ejaculation that I cannot ejaculate at all during intercourse.
18 I am a quiet person during sex. I might moan or groan, but I do not intentionally say much.
19 If I have masturbated, I tend not to want to have intercourse several hours after I have masturbated.
20. When I am having sex, everything seems to be focused in my genitals. I notice very little about any stimulation to any other part of my body.
TOTAL POINTS
If you score thirty-five or more points on this test, it is very likely that you are experiencing the physiological reflex of orgasm emphasized by the first three perspectives of sexuality but are not experiencing psychasm, the ability to enjoy a full emotional and cognitive dimension to the sexual experience. The idea is not to replace the quest for orgasm with a quest for psychasm. The idea instead is to open up new options for sexual interaction free of the artificially imposed limits of a mechanical, gender-assigned model of sexual intimacy.
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THE JOY OF PERFECT HEALTH: HOW TO KEEP YOUR MIND PURE
Let people do their mistakes. In most cases it is their best lesson. Help them only if they ask you for it. Note, that it works even with children. They learn faster. You just need to predict excessive danger sometimes. People make mistakes because they do not understand, and/or do not want to listen. Note, that you see mistakes of others better than you see yours. We question everyone and everything except our own ignorance. Once I was like that too.
Eliminate envy and jealousy from your mind They are totally useless and severely paralyse your intellectual capacity. Try an unconditional love instead. Do not shout about love. Just replace all those nasty negative feelings in your own mind, for yourself.
Learn to listen to your own higher mind – listen to the silence between thoughts. The best information and advice, tailored exclusively for you at any given instant is there. All talented people without exception access such a state naturally. All their ideas spring from there.
No words could possibly describe the connection with your own higher mind. In comparison to the language of your higher mind, our spoken and written languages are actually quite a primitive form of communication.
For example, the higher mind can communicate a book, musical symphony or a scientific discovery, with all the minute details in a “flash” lasting only a second or two. It may take many days or even years to “consciously” reconstruct and translate such messages into text, music or mathematical formulae, which others can then understand. Many people experience the state of euphoric joy, just by remembering such an instance of connection with their own higher mind.
Your higher mind does not only communicate books and science. The above was just one example. In fact it can help any of us in all imaginable aspects of our lives. We just need to learn to listen.
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